Well it’s now time to cross a new bridge in the divorce department. He is dating and has brought another woman around my kids….and of course I get the news from my four year old.
“I have a new friend mommy, her name is Riley.” My daughter sweetly announced as I picked her up from the babysitter’s house yesterday. “That’s good. Where did you meet Riley at?” I ask.
Her response……..”I can’t tell you.”
“Why can’t you tell me?”
She replies “Because daddy said I am not supposed to tell you, he needs to tell you for himself he said.”
I say no more.
Later on in the conversations about what the girls did at daddy’s this weekend I discover that Riley is the daughter of the new girlfriend, but my daughter is pretty adamant on not revealing the girlfriends name in fear of disappointing daddy.
I turn to my phone. I text and ask him if there is something I should know.
His reply is “Do you want me to miserable for the rest of my life?” (Are you serious? **** Did I say anything of this nature?)
Let me disclose that I don’t care if he dates. As far as I am concerned he and I are over, but it absolutely bothers me not knowing who my kids are around.
We text back and forth for a minute. I tell him that I don’t care if he dates and I am not mad at him I just want to know who he is bringing around my kids.
He won’t tell me. I get pissed and turn to Facebook. He BLOCKED me from his page.
I log onto the Facebook Profile I used to use when I “liked” companies so that I could get their coupons. (Comes in handy from time to time.) I view his Facebook page from there and voila easy as pie I know who he is seeing.
Why wouldn’t he just tell me in the first place? I am a pretty easy going person, I can handle it.
I send one last text message. It read exactly like this “I don’t care if you date I just don’t want you bringing women in and out of the girls life. You need to think of the impact it will have on them.”
Sorry for the rant, but I just don’t get why he is acting like this information is top secret. In my eyes if a woman is good enough to bring around your kids then you shouldn’t try to hide it from the kids mom. You also shouldn’t make your four year old feel like she has to lie to mommy. And all along I thought we were doing so well communicating and doing what was right for the girls.
Has anyone else dealt with this? Just want to make sure I am not way off base here but I feel like I should have a right to know who my kids are around. I also feel like he shouldn’t be bringing women around my kids unless he plans on getting serious with the woman. Any input?