I started writing a post “10 Things I’ve Learned this Year” and I knew that this lesson was the first on my list. And as I sat to type it all out, no other lesson I’ve learned can even compare to this one………..
In February of this year my Grandma passed away. This was the first time I’ve ever had someone close to me die.
My grandma played such a HUGE part in my life. She was the most understanding, least judgmental person that I’ve ever known. You could literally come to her with any problem – addiction, divorce, depression – there was seriously nothing that she would judge.
She was also the chief entrepreneur in our family. She decided that she didn’t like working for other people at a very young age and instead started her own businesses. Her sporting goods store is still one of the most popular stores in my town. She also had a toy store, several greenhouses, an antique shop, and a slew of rental properties.
She was an extremely intelligent woman but you’d never know that she had money. She NEVER acted superior to anyone and would give the shirt off her back to help someone else. She was always there to help everyone. Not just family but her employees, friends, and random people in need. She didn’t expect anything in return.
I want so badly to be like her. To kind of fulfill her legacy. To be that person that others can come to without judging. To be willing to give the shirt off my back to someone who needs it more than I do. To be successful without being self-centered. To be smart and strategic.
And when she passed I realized that I needed to let go of grudges that I have with some of my family. This has been a true test and very hard for me at times. But she would never give up on family no matter how out of control some situations would seem to be. And when my Dad and I sit and talk about family issues he always says “Mom told me to never give up on family” and that brings tears to my eyes.
Me, Baby Kailyn, Dad, Grandma, My Great Grandma, My Nephew, and My Brother
Life is about helping other people. About doing what you love and living on your own terms without giving a shit what other people think of you. If your family and friends love and cherish you does it really matter what anyone else thinks?
You’ve got to be able to look beyond your own problems because the truth is that there are so many people that have it worse than you do. You’ve got to be able to be the one who is strong enough to help that person who is hurting on the inside so bad and not give up on them.
This will be the first Christmas Eve in my life that won’t be spent at my Grandma’s house. And over the past couple of days it’s all I can think about.
I love you and miss you, Grandma. You’ll never be forgotten.