Family, Money, & Greed: A Recipe for Lost Relationships

Photo Credit: Artur84

Photo Credit: Artur84

My brother used to be my best friend.

He is two years younger than I am but in high school we were in the same social circle. We would go to parties together, hang out together, and watch out for each other.

We have been through a lot together. When our parents first got divorced and my mom moved us into a very rough neighborhood we stuck together.

My brother once punched one of my boyfriends in the face for calling me some choice words. If someone would mess with me he would take care of it.

Over the past year our bond has been broken and everything has unraveled. I don’t think there’s anything I can do about it.

It All Started With………

The new girlfriend.

She and my brother started dating almost a year ago. When they started seeing each other she had just got released from an 18 month prison stay for selling heroin.

She is 22 years old has 3 kids by two different dads and is an ex-addict of all sorts. Not exactly the type of girl I had hoped my brother would end up with.

But, the thing about my brother is that when it comes to dating he is pretty shallow. And, this girl was hot. (No lie, she is very pretty, not someone you would look at and think has been in prison.)

I wouldn’t give her a fair chance at first. I wanted nothing to do with her and I didn’t want my brother to have anything to do with her either. She was bad news.

Fast forward a couple of months and we ended up hanging out a couple of times. I decided that I did like her, I would give her a chance, and I was embarrassed for being so quick to judge.

Boy, was I dumb.

A few months after them being together I noticed that my brother was looking pretty bad. His face looked sunk in and he just didn’t look or act like his old self.

My brother has one son of his own.

Now he was living in a house with four toddler to preschool aged kids. At first I thought the way he was acting could be due to insanity from being stuck in a small house with so many kids running around, screaming, fighting, and crying.

My gut feeling told me they were into something bad, but who really knows, right?

The First Incident

When I was fixing up the trailer I gave a friend $500 to put in the flooring for me. He took my money and barely did any work. Luckily I backed up his loan with collateral. I had his Thompson Contender pistol with four barrels.

My brother loved the gun. He begged and begged me to sell it to him. But he had no money and wouldn’t pay me what I had in it.

I comprised with him and let him hold onto it and shoot it until I did decide to sell it.

Deciding to Sell

One evening I decided I was ready to sell the gun and was going to list it on the local Facebook yard sale  buy, sell, trade guns page.

I walked over to my brother’s house (who lives next door) to get it. I told him I wanted it back. He said that’s fine but he doesn’t have it on him right now.

Ok, well where is it? I thought.

Something in me already knew where it was and, I was right.

He confessed. He had sold it to my grandma’s gun store for $225 so that he could buy party decorations and a slip ‘n’ slide for his girlfriend’s daughter’s birthday!!!!

He sold MY gun that I have $500 dollars in for $225. Now I was stuck with four barrels that were completely useless without the gun. And he sold MY gun.


I was livid. I went to my grandma’s store and bought the gun back for $225. (Now I had $725 in this gun.) I didn’t talk to my brother for two weeks.

When I finally ended up talking to him he agreed to pay me the $225 back at income tax time. He receives his income tax check a couple of weeks later, pays me back, and I forgive him.

He learned his lesson, right?

There’s more to the story. Monday I will finish and let you know what else happened. From what I’ve told you today would you be so quick to forgive? What would you do?


  1. says

    Considering the situation and pain he is going through, I would forgive him as a brother. Had it been anyone else I wouldn’t do the same. Also I understood that you both share a strong bonding and he was everything for you when your parents separated. I think he deserves the chance once he pays back with income tax check

  2. says


    Sorry that that happened to you. I would forgive if he was my brother but I would never loan him anything again.
    Funny, he “wanted” the gun so bad, but then he sold it? Sounds very selfish to me.

  3. says

    Definitely a difficult situation. Sorry you’re going through this. My brother-in-law has been doing the same kinds of things for years, and recently it’s gotten worse. I hope this story isn’t going where I think it’s going, but if it is all I can really say is that I wish you and your brother the best. He might need a lot of support going forward, and that might be really hard at times. Don’t forget to get your own support too if you need it.

  4. says

    Alexa, forgive always, but don’t necessarily forget. Remember that forgiveness is for you, and not for him, as is bitterness like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. I’ll have my two cents to add when I hear the rest of the story, as we have several similar situations in our family/friends circle. Many, many hugs to you for what you are going through – I know it’s SO not fun. :-(

  5. says

    I think Laurie gave really good advice. Forgive but don’t forget. I have a sister who is 2 years older and we have always been close and still remain close. So I understand the brother/sister bond. I’d forgive him and remain close to him, as he seems to need some guidance and support, even though he may not know it right now.

  6. says

    This story is going nowhere good, I can tell. I can’t wait for Monday…email me the rest! 😉

    Speaking of women’s prison, have you watched Orange is the New Black? Awesome series.

    • Alexa says

      No I am cable less! I do sometimes have my mom record TV shows that I really want to watch and I catch up at her house. I’ll tell her to record that one for me.

  7. says

    Oh, Alexa. I don’t like where this story is going. Or the fact that I don’t know if he used the money for a slip n slide or….

    I’m so sorry. I hope it has a happy ending, even if it hasn’t gotten there yet IRL.

  8. says

    I will forgive but not forget. Can’t wait to read the next part. Have a great weekend. @AverageJOe, I heard about that show and I want to see it.

  9. says

    This story seems like it’s going to have a sad ending… and I hope I am wrong. I would forgive my brother, but I think he would also have to earn back my trust over time. I hope everything works out for you guys! There’s nothing harder than strained family relationships.

  10. says

    I thought at one point you were going to say that you thought he was using drugs now but clearly that’s not the case. I would be livid if that happened to me and you have every right to be angry at him. Why do some people think they can do what they want when they want. He must have known he’d have to deal with the fallout at some point and potentially jeopardize your relationship. Pity the gun was worth more to him then the love he has for you. smilex

  11. says

    Sorry to hear about this. Sometimes just because someone is family doesn’t mean that they value you as much as you value them. I haven’t had a problem like that with my siblings but there are issues with cousins borrowing money in my family.

  12. says

    I can relate. I have a younger sister who is somewhat “deranged” and I have had to get a peace order against her at one time just to keep her away. Sometimes blood is crazier than water. I hope it all works out for you and brother.

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